我的裸辞经历和完全不全guide to“什么时候可以辞职了呢”

by Eva Cheng, originally posted here: http://blog.sina.com.cn/u/2825088485

写了我的辞职经历和如何准备辞职的个人想法,大家随便看看哈

 

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在香港的金融圈里面, 大家聚在一起,经常谈论的一个话题就是想在banking之后做什么。我辞职之后,很多人问我关于辞职的ABC,虽然知道大多数人只是问一问,不过还是把自己的经历想法写下来给大家做参考。完全个人想法,大家随便看看哈。

 

自己当时辞职主要原因是觉得投行虽然是很好的工作,但还是想在年轻的时候去尝试一些自己最想做的事情。有积蓄,没有即时的家庭责任,有一定工作经验(一共做了6年 )。辞职半年多以来在全职旅行,兼职和我的partner一起做旅游相关的创业(虽然现在还主要是按照兴趣来做,微信公众号Go2Travel,欢迎关注)。

 

当时辞职还是有一点一波三折的。 我对自己的团队和老板都很有感情,所以去裸辞还是比较内心纠结的。我的老板特别好,听了以后就问我想不想找一些公司内其他部门的职位,我了解一下之后表示不是很感兴趣,然后她就给了我3个月停薪留职的sabbatical,她说“你现在很累,不要仓促做决定,3个月之后再决定”。对此,我一直非常感激。所以从4月到7月,我就认真的到处游玩 。有意思的是3个月中,我从来没有过一次对辞职产生过犹豫和疑惑,所以回来后,我就又工作了一个月的notice period,9月正式离职。

关于“我很想辞职,但不知道自己是否准备好了。你怎么知道你准备好了?”,我自己觉得其实只有一个标准,那就是自己的mind觉得准备好了。Mind准备好了,不管其他的条件如何,都会觉得辞职是很自然的事情;mind没有准备好,即使存的钱多了几倍,即使知道自己应该再找得到工作,也会觉得不ready。上面说我自己觉得时机好,是因为有积蓄,没有即时家庭责任,有一定工作经验,但其实自己之前符合这些条件已经有不少时间了,但之前就一直不觉得准备好了。总之,辞职和其他事情一样,只有自己知道自己是否准备好了,不要被别人有意无意的压力影响。

那么最重要的就是需要mind准备好,除了等待,我个人觉得做以下事情也会有些帮助。这些事情帮助你把emotional factor减少,比如fear,比如peer pressure,这样让mind更加可以理智地思考这个问题。当然每个人的mind都不同,你也需要找适合自己的方式来帮助你的mind,帮助他拨开迷雾,在合适的时候告诉你答案

1)清楚地计算花销。辞职的一大心理障碍就是担心经济情况,但是很多时候只是一个概念上的担心,担心自己没工作、需要钱怎么办。其实拿出excel/草稿纸来算一下,可以把这个问题理智化。大概计算自己辞职后一年的开销, mortgage/房租,加上每月吃喝玩乐的花费,还有对于我自己来说旅游的钱,看一年需要多少。很多时候觉得花销大,但是并不清楚到底需要预备多少钱,这时候可以大概估计一下,估计的时候要留点余地。比如如果你计划一直旅行,可以假设平均去玩一次 2万,一年10个旅行,总共是20万 。当然经济独立这一点,要感谢在投行工作的回报。我个人觉得要有流动资金 cover自己2年的花销,再加一些reserve,这样会比较放心。

2)安排签证。确保自己的香港签证还有不少时间才到期,不会很快有压力要续签。关于旅游签证, 其实不用很担心,我最近的几个签证都是没交工作证明,也没有任何问题地拿到签证。当然也可以在辞职之前多办几个旅行的1年多次往返签证,比如加拿大、美国、英国、澳大利亚等等。

3)考虑个人投资。相信很多投行的小伙伴因为没时间还有投资限制,自己都不太会去投资。不过辞职以后投资变得比较重要,如果能有一个固定收入+股票的投资会很有帮助。另外我自己辞职前买了房子(有工资收入证明才可以贷款),只要不买太贵,还是比较合理的。

4)更加了解自己。对我来说这个是让mind ready最重要的一步之一。通过和自己的mind更多的相处,更好地了解mind的需要,更好的去除感性上的担心焦虑。我当时是去了10天的内观禅修,之前写过了篇文章(链接http://blog.sina.com.cn/u/a8636de50101onnr),那之后觉得mind前所未有的清晰,明白了什么是适合我的,什么不是。不过不同的人可以找不同的方法。

说来说去,这些即使都做了,一般还是觉得自己没准备好辞职。每个人的mind需要的都不一样,需要想清楚的时间也不一样。辞职是一件很特别的事情,因为这件事完全是在自己的掌握,没有任何人可以阻止或者迫使自己做,所以,一定要等到自己决定去做的时候,把这当作一个“完全听从自己内心而做事”的开始。当然,很多时候,即使真的准备好了,还是免不住觉得紧张害怕,这时候就需要take a leap of faith,像是跳伞,相信自己让自己背着伞包坐在飞机里飞在高空中是正确的选择,在最后的一瞬跨越自己的心理约束一跃而出,那之后,大多都会开心自己的选择。好吧,那再加一条

5)尝试做一些冒险运动,感受leap of faith,感受超越自己后的新天新地(当然要注意安全,找靠谱的机构哈!)

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Interview with Bao by Balcony Salon 访谈 | 宝强的另类创业路

OK this is not actually an “Exclusive interview” conducted by me for life-after-banking.com, however it is an interview whereby I’m the interviewee for once! Hope it is allowed that I put it under the ‘Exclusive interviews’ section 🙂

 

访谈 | 宝强的另类创业路

采访整理:张羽冰

做Balcony Salon 以来在香港也算是遇到过不少创业者了。在香港很多创业者都是遵循这么一个路径:工作几年有点儿没劲了,想一个idea, 几个人筹划筹划,然后有点起色了再辞职专心干。 但这种兼职创业是属于比较稳妥的,但的往往进度缓慢,很多项目最后也不了了之了。像宝强这样,先辞职,再环游世界,还思考了人生,然后才开始坐下来想创业计划的人,在香港这种时间和机会成本高到没边儿的地方确实是不多见的。

宝强是Balcony去年6月创业论坛中的speakers之一。当时他一出场就给我留下了很深的印象。大部分的创业者讲起自己的project来都是激情四射,跟打了鸡血似的。唯独宝强娓娓道来。他讲了自己裸辞之后花了两年时间去读书,去游历,去思考。他讲了经历了六年高强度的工作之后,这两年“停下来”的经历给自己的心灵和人生带来了怎样的改变。他还讲了最终为何选择创业这条道路。总之不到十分钟的演讲大家听得屏息宁神。后来我在看视频回放的时候,总觉得听宝强说话不像是听一个80后的年轻创业家,倒是像在听一个深谙佛道的智者在阐述人生。

辞职纯粹只是想停下来,想一想。
“我辞职的时候以后的事情完全没想过。当时很迷茫,很累,想停下来想想清楚。”

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宝强之前六年的工作强度很大,连睡觉这件事情都经常要都在办公桌前和厕所里进行的。拿着丰厚的薪水,做着在旁人眼里看来很光鲜的工作,他却很迷茫很困惑。他最常思考的两个问题是:工作的意义到底是什么?而我又应该做些什么?这两个问题虽然很抽象很哲学看起来也很装逼,但我相信每一位读者都曾经在深夜里就着一盏床头灯反复思考过这两个问题。宝强也尝试在深夜里思考。但是大部分时候他都因为太累所以睡着了。经过了半年的思考之后,他想通了一件事情:如果继续白天的工作,那永远也找不到答案。于是宝强辞职了。

旅行,阅读,思考人生。
虽然说在这个网络时代,“不顾一切去旅行”和“改变世界靠创业”貌似已经被说烂了。但四年前宝强毅然辞职背上包包去南美的时候,不少人还是觉得很崇拜很欣赏的。当时宝强并没有给自己设定一个期限,要花多久找到人生的答案。他就是带着一个笔记本电脑和几件衣服上路了。

宝强和他的好基友(后来成了他未来创业搭档)踩着单车穿行智利大戈壁,在杳无人烟的土地上露营。因为戈壁寸草不生,周围没有人也没有小动物,到了晚上一片死寂。正是这样绝对的安静给了宝强和他的好基友很多很多的空间去思考,去畅谈人生。创业的想法也是在像是那片星空下一样的异国他乡慢慢萌生出来的。

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他俩一路旅行一路想创业点子。想法太多,名字取不过来,所以就统一用地名命名每一个创业计划(跟小贝和维多利亚给孩子取名是一个原理)。从南美到亚洲,也就有了Project Arica(南美的一个小城市),Project Great Wall 还有Project Sakura。

在东京闭关Brainstorm
花了两年时间阅读,旅行,思考后。宝强正式决定创业了。有了决心,也有了搭档(一起环游南美的好基友),现在就差idea了。在这个时候另类的宝强又做出了一个与众不同的决定:他决定搬去东京,和他的搭档把自己关在东京郊区的一个小房间里brainstorm创业计划(房间有多小看下图就知道了),关到想出一两个靠谱的计划为止。

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他们brainstorm的方式也很另类很系统很科学化。他们把一个人从早上起床睁眼的第一分钟到晚上睡觉前的每一个场景每一个动作梳理了一遍, 把一个人一生从呱呱落地到垂暮的每一个阶段的需求也梳理了一遍,寻找不同的人在日常生活中的创新空间。每想出一个好的想法之后就去网上查,如果有人已经在做了,就放弃,想下一个。最终他们花了整整一个月的时间,在东京的这个小房间里想出了两个创业点子。其中一个就是他们一直做到今天的Impromptoo。 Impromptoo简单来说,就是一个供香港工作繁忙的年轻人last minute约吃饭约活动的平台。具体的来说呢,就请点击文末的链接到我们的Past Events的页面观看宝强介绍他的创业计划的视频了。

最后宝强想跟大家分享一副漫画。漫画里超级马里奥的心理医生在问他成名之后的感受。马里奥说:The fame is fine, and the money is great, but sometimes I miss theplumbing.

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8 Rare Gems from Heidi Roizen on Building a Fulfilling Life and Career

http://firstround.com/article/8-Rare-Gems-from-Heidi-Roizen-on-Building-a-Fulfilling-Life-and-Career

Heidi Roizen is one of those names in Silicon Valley that everyone learns at some point. That’s what happens when you spend 14 years running your own company, then building developer relationships as a VP for Apple. Today, she’s an investor with DFJ Venture and teaches a class called the Spirit of Entrepreneurship at Stanford’s School of Engineering. Generally speaking, she’s someone who knows everyone (there’s even a Harvard Business School case about her) — and she’s wielded that influence gracefully.

Before graduation this year, she returned to Stanford (where she was also an undergraduate and business student), to speak at the Entrepreneurship Corner and share the lessons she has learned from over three decades of working and operating in tech. The result is a type of commencement speech for entrepreneurs, full of seldom shared gems based on her experiences.

Below are eight tenets Roizen has used to guide her career, create an expansive and lasting network, and shape new innovations. The beauty is that while they were delivered to an audience of people just starting out, they remain deeply relevant as a roadmap and important reminders for entrepreneurs at all stages.


1. If you’re not doing something hard, you’re wasting your time.
Melinda Gates was once walking by her young daughter’s room, and watched as she tried to put on her shoes. “This is hard,” her daughter said. “But I like hard.” “I love that line,” says Roizen. “When you’ve been through a lot of hard things, you know that the best times are when you get through them.”

Successful entrepreneurs are constantly chasing a state of flow. “You know that feeling when you’re working right at the edge of your capability and you’re so engaged in trying and failing and trying more that time just flies? That’s when you’re really testing yourself. Ask yourself every day, every week, ‘What is something hard that I can tackle?’” It’s funny, Roizen says, that so many ambitious people still strive to eliminate difficulty from their careers — they want to cruise by, or land a dream job without earning it first — but that’s wrongheaded. “The reality is, when you get there, if you do, you’ll be bored. So look for the hard stuff.”

“The great thing about being an entrepreneur is that it’s hard. There’s no safety net. No regular paycheck. You have to do it all on your own.”

2. Your ethics set the tone for your life.
When Roizen was CEO of her first company, T/Maker, there was a sprinkler malfunction that ruined all of the inventory in the stock room. Fortunately, it was mostly worthless. Even more fortunately (in another sense), their landlord didn’t know that and offered to cover any amount of damages with insurance. “It was really tempting — we could have collected $150,000 when we were bootstrapped,” she says. “But we decided to tell the truth, because not only did we know the inventory wasn’t worth anything, but our employees knew too. If we were willing to cheat, what would that tell them?”

When you’re setting an example for a staff of people, you have to be cognizant of every move that you make. If T/Maker’s leadership had taken the money, they would have sent the message that cheating is okay. “It would be the same as saying, ‘Hey file an expense report that’s not true. Take home that extra piece of equipment if you want.’” Seems obvious, but it can be an incredibly hard lesson to learn, Roizen says. “You will think, ‘I can take this easy road. I can say this thing. I can tell this customer something that isn’t really true about our product to make a sale.’”

“Sometimes you get away with it. Sometimes you don’t. A lot of times you won’t.”

“What you decide to do sets the tone and culture for the whole company you are building,” she says. “Part of this is being able to sleep at night. More of it is about being a good contributor to the people you work with and the relationships you build. This is easier when you hold yourself to a higher standard.”

3. Your gut has more information than you do.
While in business school at Stanford, Roizen took a class called Creativity in Business that asked students to conduct an exercise for a week: Write down a decision you need to make the next day on a piece of paper, go to sleep, wake up in the morning and immediately make the decision. The purpose was to show students how gut decisions get made, and how right they can be.

Increasingly, tech culture is about the opposite — making decisions driven by exhaustive data. “There’s this idea that the more data you have, the better the decision you can make. That may be true for some things, but not everything,” says Roizen. “Gut instincts are built on years of experience and subconsciously what you observe about human nature from every interaction. They are informed in ways we don’t even understand.” She’s learned this several times the hard way, especially when it came to decisions about people — who to work with, who to keep on, who to fire. “When the data said something else and I didn’t go with my gut, I regretted it,” she says.

4. Picking your team is the most important thing you will ever do.

“The vast majority of companies succeed or die by the quality of the team.”

Over the years, Roizen has seen a lot of young entrepreneurs make the same mistake. They have an idea for a company, they start their own thing, and when it comes time to hire executives, they don’t want to bring on anyone who knows more than them. “They don’t want to be intimidated, so they hire someone who is the same age and knows about the same stuff. You hire people who are familiar to you because you trust them.” This sounds good, but at the same time, you’re missing out on all kinds of expertise because you’re worried about being outgunned or sidelined.

“If you want to be the smartest person in the room, you’re going to build a crummy team.”

“Do you really want a VP of sales who knows less about sales than you? Do you want a CFO who knows less about accounting? No of course not,” she says. “You have to take risks to find the right people and then trust in those relationships. Your job becomes to empower those people and make sure they get along. My goal is always to be the dumbest person in the room because I want to be surrounded by really bright, really amazing people. That’s when exciting, world-changing things get done.”

5. The art of negotiation is finding the optimal intersection of mutual need.
In another one of Roizen’s business school classes, the students were paired off into buyers and sellers and told to negotiate the purchase of a car. Everyone had the same data, yet the difference between the highest sale price and the lowest at the end of class was drastic. She was shocked, and it shaped her perception of how negotiations work. As she puts it, when you first learn about transactions, you see them as a zero-sum game. You either want to make the most money you can, or pay the least. You don’t care who is on the other side of the deal. You want to win at their expense.

“I don’t believe anything in life is a transaction like this anymore,” Roizen says. “I believe everything is about relationships. If you have a transactional view of life, you think, ‘I’m not going to worry about the future. I’m going to worry about getting as much as I can right now.’ The relationship-based view is very different.”

“Nothing in life is a zero-sum game.”

“If I can walk into a transaction with you, and my goal is not to just make myself better off but to make you better off as well, we’re going to end up with a much better outcome. You’ll want to do business with me again — and that’s really, really important.”

Roizen has spent nearly her entire life in Silicon Valley, and has run into the same people again and again. This familiarity has only been compounded by Facebook profiles and Etsy ratings, and all kinds of other permanent metrics. “You are now the sum total of your transactions because they are relationships,” she says. “Every time you meet someone, think about the relationship instead of the transaction. If you know more about them and they know more about you, you will be able to collaboratively help each other.”

6. Life is actually really, really random.
“Bad things will happen to you. You will fail. Things outside of your control will happen. You need to lean into this fact.” In this environment, how can you survive, much less strive for success? Roizen has one piece of advice:Expect things to be messy.

“The key to happiness is to lower your expectations.”

This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go after your goals. It means you should prepare for an imperfect path on the way. For example, when Roizen travels internationally, she assumes her checked baggage will be lost, that her flight will be late, that the rental car won’t be there waiting. “I assume everything that can go wrong will go wrong so when it actually happens, I’m not stressed,” she says. “I have a change of clothes in my carry-on; I schedule no meetings within two hours of landing; I expect the mess, and if it doesn’t happen, I’m pleasantly surprised. 95% of stress is self-inflicted.”

Roizen remembers one entrepreneur she knew in particular who would always make meticulous plans — everything would have to fall perfectly into place for things to work out, and of course they never did. “If you assume everything is going to go perfectly, bad things will happen to you. You will run out of money before you reach the next milestone. Accept that life will get messy, and when it does, pick yourself up again.”

“If you fall down and refuse to get up, you will be down the rest of your life.”

Remember, the other side of the randomness coin is that some really great things can and do happen. When they do, don’t balk at the opportunity. There’s no knowing what could happen. If you get three truly excellent job offers, don’t drive yourself nuts over picking the right one, for example. “The fact is if you pick one that’s bad and it goes out of business and you get fired, it may still be the greatest thing that ever happens to you. You might learn something amazing that you may not have learned sitting at that other safer job.”

A while ago, Roizen came across a book that said when people were asked about the best and worst things that happened to them in the last five years, most people said the same thing — even things like getting divorced, getting cancer, losing a job. “It’s shocking when you ask real people what has moved their life in the most positive directions, it is often those types of things. Sometimes bad things can be good when you allow randomness in your life.”

7. Get good at using your time.

“The most important thing you have is time because you can’t make more of it.”

“You can do things to leverage your time with money and help, but at the end of the day, you’re going to run out of it, so you have to be really sensitive about how you spend it,” Roizen says. “A lot of people are really bad at understanding how much time things take. They have 1,000 unanswered emails and they say, ‘I have no idea how to handle this.’ Well, the solution is to not schedule more than five hours of things in a day to leave three hours to answer email and calls and read, and stay informed. When people say they don’t have time to do that, I say, ‘Of course you do. You just have to do them instead of other things.’”

Her advice: Think about every use of your time and give it all equal weight to start. Recognize that grunt work takes time. Reading takes time. Figure out what you like doing, what extends your capabilities the most, and organize your time to strike the right balance. Ideally, this leaves some space for reflection and sleep, but Roizen knows this isn’t always realistic.

“I was once an entrepreneur, and I did not live a balanced life,” she says. “I think we live our lives in a serial fashion — there are periods where you won’t have time to do everything you want. If you’re really excited about something, you can run on that for a while.” That’s okay, as long as you’re aware of the tradeoffs, she says. More time spent working means less time with family and friends. “There’s this fantasy that important things like relationships and communication don’t take any time to maintain, but they do.” You may not be perfectly balanced, but the key is to keep trying.

“If you don’t give yourself space, there won’t be any room for good, random things to happen to you.”

8. The 20-40-60 Rule.
Espoused by actress Shirley MacLaine, the rule goes something like this: “At 20, you are constantly worrying about what other people think of you. At 40 you wake up and say, ‘I’m not going to give a damn what other people think anymore.’ And at 60 you realize no one is thinking about you at all.” The most important piece of information there, Roizen says: “Nobody is thinking about you from the very beginning.”

Of course, this is good news and bad news. The bad news is that no one is constantly wondering if you’re okay, how much money you’re making, whether you’re fulfilled in your job or your relationships.

“You need to be your own advocate,” Roizen says. “If you’re in a job you don’t like, you need to be the one to change it. You can’t sit in your office and wait for someone to bring you the answer.”

“Your boss is not thinking about you. Your peers are not thinking about you. You need to think about you.”

Harsh. But there’s a flipside. People waste hours and hours torturing themselves over what other people think about them — and they do it needlessly. Even Roizen used to fret about showing up to meetings after long flights with the wrong shoes, or a wrinkled suit. “I would be so worried about what people were going to think if I couldn’t pull myself together. But then it occurred to me, I have never once been in a meeting where halfway through I thought, ‘Even though this person is smart, they have a wrinkle in their jacket, so they must not be very good.’ No one ever thinks that way.”

People have enormous capacity to beat themselves up over the smallest foibles — saying the wrong thing in a meeting, introducing someone using the wrong name. Weeks can be lost, important relationships avoided, productivity wasted, all because we’re afraid others are judging us. “If you find this happening to you, remember, no one is thinking about you as hard as you are thinking about yourself. So don’t let it all worry you so much.”

Literature Books (Classic but short! so don’t be scared…)

I was never a fan of classics. They are thick, and often filled with words from ancient times that are beyond my vocabulary. And as a result, they are boring.

However, after beating around the bush with philosophical theories and modern novels for a while, I was pleasantly surprised that I had developed a liking for classics. Perhaps it is because I had started with these short books written by noble prize winners from not too long ago.

So if you shared my lack of enthusiasm for classics and but have a bit of time on your hands, I hope you would consider the following books that have brought me much delight.

IMPORTANT NOTE: some of the reviews may review the plot of the story

  • “The Stranger” By Albert Camus, winner of the 1957 Noble Prize For Literature

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If I had to describe my takeaway from this book with one word, it would be honesty. Brutal honesty with oneself, to be more precise.

Meursault, the hero of the book, may be many things. You could call him a killer, an atheist, a cold-blooded and indifferent animal unworthy of a place in society or even a robot, but you can not say that he is a hypocrite. He ate when he was hungry, drank when he was thirsty, slept when he was tired. He would not shed a tear just because the occasion (ie. his mother’s funeral) demanded it or people around him expected it. When asked by his girlfriend if he loved her, he said “No” flatly. He didn’t sugar-coat it, didn’t make up some excuse, didn’t avoid the question. He spoke his mind directly, simply and truthfully. Even when his own life was at stake in the court room and being asked to state the motive of his killing, he “blurted out that it was because of the sun”, which for all we know as readers of the book, is the whole truth. He didn’t beg for his life or try to portray himself to be anything but his true self. It is then not surprising that at his final hour, when confronted by the chaplain about God, he would say that it didn’t interest him, because it simply didn’t.

Meursault behaved in this truthful way naturally. It’s not as if he had a profound ideology or belief about being honest or truthful is good or bad, he just did it as a matter of course. It is who he is. But of course, he is also a killer, and that makes things more complicated. Should we as a society educate and encourage people to be true to themselves at the risk of them becoming criminals, or shall we make sure that everybody conforms to a social normal even if they are just pretending to be?

I felt a connection with Meursault, deeply moved by his brutal honesty and also, dare I say, his kindness towards people around him. Throughout the whole story, he did not blame anybody, not even when he knew he was to be hanged; and he thought about shaking hands with the magistrate. Perhaps all of this could be explained by the fact that he always lived in the present (and the future) and never found it useful to dwell on the past. As per his thoughts when blamed for the lack of remorse by the prosecutor, “I had never been able to truly feel remorse for anything. My mind was always on what was coming next, today or tomorrow.”

If he hadn’t killed the Arab, perhaps Meursault would have married Marie, learnt from her and developed a (stronger) capacity to love.

  • “The Old Man and the Sea” by Ernest Hemingway, winner of the 1954 Noble Prize For Literature

The thing about classics is that, it has been sliced and diced already in a thousand different ways by people from all ages. Anything that can be said about it has probably been said already. It’s like in the movie “Truman Show” when the young Truman said to the teacher: “I want to be an explorer!”, and the teacher pulls down a map of the world and replies: “… you’re too late. There’s really nothing left to explore.”

Oh well. Then perhaps this is only relevant to people who are interested in what I thought of the book. For surely there hadn’t been another “I” before this?

My takeaway from the book is one about freedom. As a man grows old, he is less and less attached to materialistic things. The old man lived in a small one-room shack, a bed, a table and a chair was all it had, if you discount the “place on the dirt floor to cook with charcoal”. He wore a shirt that had been patched so many times, and used his rolled-up trousers as a pillow and old newspapers as his mattress. He lived in such simplistic conditions without a hint of despair. He is a true minimalist without knowing what a minimalist is. He seems to have attained freedom from materialistic things.

Further, the old man seems to have freed himself from the desire for food – one of the hardest things to do for men. My favourite paragraph of the book was this: “The old man drank his coffee slowly. It was all he would have all day and he knew that he should take it. For a long time now eating had bored him and he never carried a lunch. He had a bottle of water in the bow of the skiff and that was all he needed for the day.” If it weren’t for the fact that he knew he needed it, he probably would have gone without the coffee as well!

Thirdly, the old man seems to be free from, though not completely, human relationships. He lived alone, fished alone, seems to have no real relationship with anybody except for the boy. He did have a picture of his wife though which is kept with his clean shirts. At sea, the boy was the only person he thought about, repeatedly. It seems to imply that, human relationships are harder to be free from compared to external materialistic things, and harder even than basic human needs such as food.

Lastly, the old man was faced with the hardest thing to be free from – one’s own physical body. He worked hard to command his own body as if he was separate from it. Pain and discomfort experienced by the body was not of chief concern for the old man, as long as the body was able to carry out whatever task the mind commands. Perhaps this is the reason people often describe the old man as “tough”. Toughness is not by measured by how much pain your body can endure, but how much your mind gives a damn about whatever pain your body experiences.

Was the old man a happy old man? I think so. With such freedom from materialistic things, from bodily desires, from human relationships and from his own physical form, he is probably happier than most of us.

  • “Siddhartha” by Herman Hesse, winner of the 1946 Noble Prize For Literature

(Review to come)

StartupHK’s List of Best Coffee Shops in Hong Kong for Working and Meeting Startups

 

Thanks to startupshk.com, we have now a list of cool cafes for entrepreneurs who are always in need of free WIFI and caffeine! Some of them are very cool!

http://www.startupshk.com/our-list-of-the-best-coffee-shops-in-hong-kong-for-working-and-meeting-startups/#more-2751

https://foursquare.com/startupshk/list/startup-friendly-coffee-shops-in-hong-kong

Here is the list if you don’t wanno bother with the links (pasted from the foursquare page)

1. Holly BrownCOFFEE SHOP

22 Stanley St, Central

“Easy to find. Coffee is good, wifi, they have ice cream too. Quieter upstairs in afternoon.”

 

2. Café OCAFÉ

61 Caine Rd, Mid-levels

“More than coffee, light lunch / dinner too. Upstairs 5 tables, spacious. Free Wifi”

 

3. Il Caffè

Room 103, Cheung’s Bldg, 1-3 Wing Lok St, Sheung Wan, Hong Kong

“Quiet, good for meetings / chats . Always have a table (except from lunch time). No wifi though.”

 

4. Fuel Espresso

Shop 3023, 3/F, IFC Mall, 1 Harbour View St, Central

“Quiet corner of IFC mall. Good coffee and lots of sitting space with table.”

 

5. Café Deadend

72 Po Hing Fong, Sheung Wan

“Quiet place for a chat or to work after the lunch rush. It’s a hike up the hill but the sandwiches, coffee and vibe are worth it!”

 

6. Teakha 茶.家

18 Tai Ping Shan St, Sheung Wan

“Great scones and tea and a good place to brainstorm or just catch up with others.”

 

7. Mini Dans La Ville

UG/F, The Pemberton, 22-26 Bonham Strand, Sheung Wan

“Close to MTR, good coffee, quiet, easy to find, wifi, food, @casey_lau favorite place in SW.”

 

8. Coco Espresso

197 Queen’s Rd C, Sheung Wan

“Close to MTR, great coffee, serves food, @dapunster favorite place in HK”

 

9. Java Java [CLOSED]

Flat C, 188A Hollywood Rd, Sheung Wan, Hong Kong

“Nice comfy chairs and quiet environment for meetings.”

 

10. Barista Jam

Shop D, G/F, 126-128 Jervois St, Sheung Wan

“Good coffee.”

 

11. Dan Ryan’s Chicago Grill

Shop 114, 1/F, Pacific Place, 88 Queensway, Central

“Not great coffee but american style food and moderatley quiet for talk.”

 

12. The Petit Café

Shop 407, 4/F, Pacific Place, 88 Queensway, Central

“Great small cafe in Pacific Place but dont go from 12 noon – 6pm as it’s packed.”

 

13. Cova Ristorante & Caffè

3/F, Pacific Place, 88 Queensway, Central

“Good place for a business meeting or working on a laptop. Expensive”

 

14. Grand Café

Grand Hyatt Hong Kong, 1 Harbour Rd, Wan Chai

“Expensive lobby coffee shop at The Grand Hyatt but great view and great for meetings.”

 

15. Madam Sixty Ate

Shop 8, Podium, J Senses, 60 Johnston Rd at Ship St, Wan Chai

“A restaurant with coffee and funky cocktails. Cool atomosphere. Pricey. But nice.”

 

16. Fill in the Blank

13/F, Hang Wai Commercial Bldg, 231-233 Queen’s Rd E, Wan Chai

“Quiet co-working space/cafe. Feels private, great for meetings. Lots of plug points for laptops and you can sprawl across their large tables.http://www.fillintheblank.hk/”

 

17. Rabbithole Coffee & Roaster

3 Landale St, Wan Chai

“Very nice coffeeshop, good but pricey coffee (Latte ~HKD40). Every time I walk by it’s pretty much empty, might be busier around peak lunch time. Not sure if they have Wifi though.”

 

18. Oolaa Petite

Wing Fung Street, Wanchai

“Wifi available, avoid lunch time since it gets very busy. Early mornings are great and very quiet until 11:30am/12pm.”

 

19. Café Corridor

G/F, 26A Russell St, Causeway Bay

“best coffee in CWB, wifi.”

 

20. Wired Café

Unit 1403-1404, 14/F, Hysan Place, 500 Hennessy Rd, Causeway Bay

“Free wifi, great view, free refills on the coffee. Japanese style western food. In Hysan Place. @Casey_Lau pick for CWB.”

 

21. Pacific Coffee Emporium 太平洋咖啡

Shop 6, Fashion Walk, 9 Kingston St, Causeway Bay

“Pacific Coffee’s flagship store. Drip coffee, food, lots of space.”

 

22. Brunch Club & Supper

1/F, Yee Hing Bldg, 13 Leighton Rd, Causeway Bay

“Wifi, coffee and breakfast all day. Avoid on Sundays. Service may be slow.”

 

23. Eslite Tea Room

9/F, Hysan Place, 500 Hennessy Rd, Causeway Bay

“Can always find a table here, good coffee and food. Quiet and great for sitting awhile and working on a laptop”

 

24. HABITŪ Ristorante The Garden

Shop 308, Lee Gardens Two, 28 Yun Ping Rd, Causeway Bay

“There is actually a Habitu in Lee Gardens Two! Nice outdoor cafe area in Causeway Bay.”

 

25. The Coffee Academics

38 Yiu Wa St, Causeway Bay

“On quiet Yiu Wah St. and close to MTR.”

 

26. Toast Box 土司工坊

Shop G514, G/F, Kin On Mansion, On Shing Terrace, Taikoo Shing, Quarry Bay

“Singaporean style milk teas and coffees and snacks.”

 

27. Feast (Food by EAST)

1/F, EAST Hong Kong, 29 Taikoo Shing Rd., Tai Koo, Hong Kong

“Quiet place to work on a laptop or have a business meeting”

 

28. SillyBoo Frozen Yogurt

96 Electric Rd, Causeway Bay

“Operated by same owners from Cafe Corridor. Great coffee. Close to Cocoon. @dapunster’s remote office”

 

29. Crema Coffee

96 Granville Rd. Shop LG17, LG/F, Hilton Towers, Tsim Sha Tsui, Hong Kong

“best coffee in TST…east. A bit far to go to from TST MTR but close from TST east exit. Worth it for good coffee.”

 

30. Panash Bakery & Café

Shop 305, 3/F, iSquare, 63 Nathan Rd, Tsim Sha Tsui

“It’s a restaurant but also a bakery/cafe. Skip Starbucks if you want some privacy for a meeting.”

 

31. Simplylife Bakery Café

Shop L2-30, Festival Walk, 80 Tat Chee Ave, Kowloon Tong

“In the festival Walk mall near the Apple Store. Great coffee, good atmosphere. Also sells food.”

 

32. caffè HABITŪ the table

Unit UG-19, Festival Walk, 80 Tat Chee Ave, Kowloon Tong

“In Festival Walk near cinemas. Good coffee, good atmosphere. Also sells food.”

 

31 Things You Can Do to Improve Your Life

This presentation was an instant hit on Slideshare when it was published in April, and now has been viewed nearly 700,000 times. Sometimes the simplest things are the best. For those hungry for to-do’s after banking, why not give these 31 things a try? 🙂

http://blog.slideshare.net/2013/05/28/behind-the-slides-31-things-you-can-do-to-improve-your-life/